I've decided that much like everything else, wedding planning is as relaxed or as stressful as you make it.
It's been 139 days since we got engaged and in that time we've pretty much settled all the big stuff. I suppose being a PA and a natural organiser means that for us, so far, this whole process has felt incredibly fun and pretty darn easy.
We made a conscious effort from the get go to infuse the WHOLE process with love and attention and easy breezy feels.
So far, so good.
1. SETTING THE DATE
First thing on the agenda was getting a date in the diary as I didn't feel like I could get started until this was done and I wanted to get started god damn it!! Things were thrown slightly off my schedul because i'd just had my braces put on and they'd be firmly glued onto my chompers until next Summer.
Autumn 16' it was then.
Also, as a lot of my immediate family are teachers I wanted to aim for a school holiday so that I can selfishly have my sister around for the few days before. You know... so I can legitimately boss her around and get manicures and fun girly stuff like that!
After we took that all that stuff into consideration we were left with the 29th October 2016 ! LESS THAN A YEAR NOW! Fuuuuuuuuck. Autumn Wedding be mine.
2. BOOKING THE VENUES
We've actually known where we wanted to have our ceremony and reception for a while, so once we had a date it was more a case of checking availability and putting down our deposits. After putting together a rough guest list we checked with our venues re numbers and booked ourselves in.
We only had a few requirements for choosing and finalising venues. Somewhere near where we live to keep things personal and meaningful for us. Somewhere non-religious for the ceremony, but still beautiful. Somewhere relaxed for the reception so that people could let their hair down! Thankfully we've chosen somewhere that ticks all the boxes! Bring on venue styling!!
(just an fyi this is a picture of a dress that looks absolutely nothing like mine)
3. THE DRESS
The most important part of this whole thing. Obviously.
Wedding dress shopping was the MOST fun. I must have tried on about 50 dresses and legit liked all but maybe 2 of them (fish-tail dresses are just not my jam... how do people walk in them???)...
Anyway, after about the 50th dress it actually started to become a little frustrating as I had absolutely no barometer of what style looked nicest, what didn't, what I liked the most, what would be the most suited to our day, what would be down right annoying...no. idea.
I'd gotten to the point of "well I like this one so I might as well buy it as it's just a bloody dress anyway" on about 6 of them.
But then I tried on a dress that made me FEEL amazing. I even said 'fuuuuuck' once it was pinned up.
And then a veil was put on me.
That was it. I rang Ben and it was bought.
Crazy excited doesn't even begin to cover how I feel about it.
I've since bought my accessories; shoes, cape etc and so on the 'outfit' front I'm covered. Ben next!
And.... that feels like enough wedding chat for today don't you think?